Yes it can be a lot of work and stress (sometimes a lot of money) but it feels great to see your plan fall into place. Being a guest is great when you just want to relax and have a little fun! As a hostess though you can take your whole plan and see it finally fall together (a birthday party for example). Obviously every single detail won't be perfect but you can finally see the payoff of all the hard work you did.
So who would you rather be? Hostess or Guest?